CPTSD/Disorders of extreme stress not otherwise specified

NPD and ADHD is often confused either one another because they can display eerily similar symptoms.

So from growing up I’m going to provide an insight in my dad’s NPD and his ADHD.

My dads ADHD:

Restlessness

Quick to anger

Criminal activity which was worse in his younger years

Always losing things, misplacing his keys and phone, throwing objects, gambling. 🎰

Impulsive

Dyslexic

Theory of mind issues

Created a business in a care home

Obsessed with money

Difficulty concentrating

Always craving novelty

Obsession with watching Only Fools and Horses and insisting everyone watches it with him.

Inappropriate behaviour and not thinking about the consequences.

He told me “When I was in probation I was nothing like the other criminals, I had to sit there and laugh, I can’t relate to any of them Nat”.

His crimes weren’t severe: I can’t put them on here but his ADHD is severe so I kind of understood if he got treatment for his ADHD he would never have engaged in those behaviours. Unfortunately the system rejected his referral and his NPD meant he did not want to pay for it itself.

His NPD:

Obsessed with his own reflection

Can be violent if not on medication

Will seek help for depression if criticised as very sensitive to criticism

Has about 100 photos of him up and his name dotted around his house. He’s obsessed with his appearance.

Will sue people if they turn against him.

Will blame others.

Has excessive fantasies of brilliance and success. He has to be the “best” at everything.

Lack of empathy

Grandiose

Envious of others

Arrogant

No one can better than him. He has to be friends with politicians, celebrities, has made his accountant cry.

Will cover up lies. And have flying monkeys to cover for him.

Sense of entitlement as in he has to have the best of everything and associate with the best people. He only likes me because I’ve been on films and TV. He wanted that for me. Not my writing goals.

He had the best wedding where celebrities get married. He will leave me with no food but spend 50k on a wedding for himself.

Comes across as charming in his business.

But his NPD came from childhood trauma. It’s very rare.

Having both together and bringing up my father with this was the most traumatising thing to do.

I tested his NPD recently and he has all 9 traits. He said his doctor said he has to take medication. It helps because otherwise he would have murdered someone by now.

That’s real NPD.

I was just my mums trigger of my dad.

ADHD and NPD is not a good combination. It’s very rare together.

My recent ex is nothing like that, that’s why I didn’t think he had NPD.

There’s a difference between general narcissism and NPD. You have to live with one to know.